Brilliant, and spot on. My husband and I married in rather stressful circumstances (a falling out with his side of the family). We ended up spending just $1200 on the wedding (including the dress) at a local golf course, at sunset. Store-bought cakes, bouquets (still the most beautiful I've seen), a set meal with Pimms as the signature cocktail. 25 guests. Lots of Ella Fitzgerald. And... we were complimented by nearly everyone. Sure - there were hiccups - the pastor introducing us as 'Mr and Mrs Bela... whatever ' (!!! It's Belavilas!) being one, but we had a sense of humor about it. We've been married nearly 13 years now. It hasn't always been easy - we're both strong headed, after all - but there is never a time when I regret not spending more on our wedding. Save it for the honeymoon, at the very least!
There were so many thoughts that came to mind - I noticed how quickly I was willing to give up on the wedding in favor of starting the marriage.
And while that's good because it shows me that my attachment is not to the wedding day, I was also challenged to dare to believe God for the desires of my heart. After 39 years and 14+ years of believing God and waiting for the promise, I was reminded that my wedding day is more than just a regular party for the gram, it's a testimony and a day of celebration and rejoicing because God kept His promise. As such, there will be a gathering (not 300), but an intimate gathering of friends and family coming together in celebration of what God has done.
One of the challenges of "What do you dare to dream?" is to dare to believe for what you want and not what you think you can get based on your circumstances, opinions, fears, etc...
What do you want?
What do you really want?
What do you dare to dream?
And for me when it comes to the wedding day specifically, I want it to first and foremost, not be a hinderance or point of stress or debt for the marriage. I want an intimate gathering at a destination location (NO ISLAND!) where close friends and family gather to celebrate our love and our testimony (because surely, he has a testimony around love also).
I want the celebration to be a true sound of rejoicing full of so much joy and laughter and sweet sweet memories.
The temptation after reading the article was to skip the wedding because it felt like a roadblock on the road to the marriage and the fear was, I wouldn't be able to afford it. But I have never lived life or taken leaps of faith based on what I did or didn't have, there's no reason to start now.
In conclusion, It was good to be reminded what I want and to also know that if it came down to it, I choose having a home and simply being married to my husband, my promise, my love worth waiting for.
When we married, me for the second time there was a small ( us and my parents in law who were witnesses) ceremony at the registry followed by a modest lunch and a visit to our favourite garden. I was dressed in something simple from the charity shop. 2 days later we gathered with 80 friends and family for blessing and a cold buffet prepared mostly in advance but served and presented on the day by our presider as we ran out of time. ( God bless him). The favours were love hearts the flowers adorning the chapel arranged by my mother in law on the day. Waitrose supplied the wine on sale or return and we had a lovely day. I did buy a dress for the occation but it was quite simple. My grandaughters were dressed up and looked very lovely. It was a very special day and cost us very little. This set us up well to weather the inevitable storms ahead. I hope your second wedding is as lovely as ours if a little more chic.
Brilliant, and spot on. My husband and I married in rather stressful circumstances (a falling out with his side of the family). We ended up spending just $1200 on the wedding (including the dress) at a local golf course, at sunset. Store-bought cakes, bouquets (still the most beautiful I've seen), a set meal with Pimms as the signature cocktail. 25 guests. Lots of Ella Fitzgerald. And... we were complimented by nearly everyone. Sure - there were hiccups - the pastor introducing us as 'Mr and Mrs Bela... whatever ' (!!! It's Belavilas!) being one, but we had a sense of humor about it. We've been married nearly 13 years now. It hasn't always been easy - we're both strong headed, after all - but there is never a time when I regret not spending more on our wedding. Save it for the honeymoon, at the very least!
There were so many thoughts that came to mind - I noticed how quickly I was willing to give up on the wedding in favor of starting the marriage.
And while that's good because it shows me that my attachment is not to the wedding day, I was also challenged to dare to believe God for the desires of my heart. After 39 years and 14+ years of believing God and waiting for the promise, I was reminded that my wedding day is more than just a regular party for the gram, it's a testimony and a day of celebration and rejoicing because God kept His promise. As such, there will be a gathering (not 300), but an intimate gathering of friends and family coming together in celebration of what God has done.
One of the challenges of "What do you dare to dream?" is to dare to believe for what you want and not what you think you can get based on your circumstances, opinions, fears, etc...
What do you want?
What do you really want?
What do you dare to dream?
And for me when it comes to the wedding day specifically, I want it to first and foremost, not be a hinderance or point of stress or debt for the marriage. I want an intimate gathering at a destination location (NO ISLAND!) where close friends and family gather to celebrate our love and our testimony (because surely, he has a testimony around love also).
I want the celebration to be a true sound of rejoicing full of so much joy and laughter and sweet sweet memories.
The temptation after reading the article was to skip the wedding because it felt like a roadblock on the road to the marriage and the fear was, I wouldn't be able to afford it. But I have never lived life or taken leaps of faith based on what I did or didn't have, there's no reason to start now.
I dare to believe God.
And as an act of defiant faith, I will now actively start planning my wedding. And I will start by watching this Masterclass - https://www.masterclass.com/sessions/classes/plan-your-dream-wedding
#DaretoBelieve
In conclusion, It was good to be reminded what I want and to also know that if it came down to it, I choose having a home and simply being married to my husband, my promise, my love worth waiting for.
When we married, me for the second time there was a small ( us and my parents in law who were witnesses) ceremony at the registry followed by a modest lunch and a visit to our favourite garden. I was dressed in something simple from the charity shop. 2 days later we gathered with 80 friends and family for blessing and a cold buffet prepared mostly in advance but served and presented on the day by our presider as we ran out of time. ( God bless him). The favours were love hearts the flowers adorning the chapel arranged by my mother in law on the day. Waitrose supplied the wine on sale or return and we had a lovely day. I did buy a dress for the occation but it was quite simple. My grandaughters were dressed up and looked very lovely. It was a very special day and cost us very little. This set us up well to weather the inevitable storms ahead. I hope your second wedding is as lovely as ours if a little more chic.